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The Eternal Captain Rule by Athol Kay

April 26, 2013

OK, Athol is great and dead-on right so much of the time. I love this guy’s humor and his straight-forward calling a spade a spade. Wish there were more men like him out there.

I don’t really know why I can’t “reblog” from his site (can’t find an option for that), but here it is, totally attributed (AS IN I DID NOT WRITE THIS AND I’M TOO COMPUTER ILLITERATE TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO REBLOG!): http://marriedmansexlife.com/2013/04/the-eternal-captain-rule/#comment-41712

The Eternal Captain Rule

April 25, 2013 By Athol Kay 16 Comments

If there’s a element of learning the Red Pill that’s like getting a gaping chest wound… it’s The Eternal Captain Rule. Namely…

“Ignorance of your responsibility to have been the Captain is no excuse.”

The perception is that men always have the personal power to effect change, while women can more easily frame themselves as the victim of circumstance. Therefore, if you’re the husband, just because you didn’t know you were supposed to be the Captain, doesn’t excuse you from having failed as the Captain in the past. Even if having an equal relationship was by mutual agreement, if it all falls apart it’s going to be the husband who carries the most blame for the failure.

I’m not saying it’s fair. I’m just saying what it is.

Just as importantly, the average woman quite pointedly responds sexually to a dominant leading man. Lack of a husband displaying reasonable dominance and leadership is a fast track to relationship failure. Weak and poorly leading husbands may as well be actively pushing their wives into the arms of other men. Women as the manosphere so rightly explains, are hypergamous – seeking strong, powerful, leading men. It’s what they are designed to do, its normal female behavior.

Harsh truth here… complaining about normal female behavior makes you sound like a loser. Stop whining about it.

In the same vein I don’t react with shock that someone was half eaten by their pet tiger. Tigers are created to be merciless, rampaging, killing machines. It’s what they do. Your pet tiger killing you is simply your tiger displaying normal tiger behavior.

So for whatever reason your life falls apart and you suddenly become homeless… odds are pretty good that your wife isn’t going to be homeless with you. If she has a better deal than you she can get to be with… she’d be rational to not bed down in the cardboard box with you. It would be her being crazy to stay with you.

I’m not saying that all women are jaded, gold-digging whores waiting for the first moment of weakness to jump ship to a larger cock… it’s not THAT bad (he said softly massaging his right temple for effect, thinking that the tiger metaphor was perhaps poorly chosen)… but every woman expects you can hold your shit together and be a productive spouse on a routine basis.

The old line is that “women don’t want to win, they want a winner.”

There’s a lot of truth to that, but it’s also worth saying that no one expects you to roll through life like an endless perfect season either. You can even have a losing season…

…but if you do, you better have a plan and a show of confidence that you can turn the franchise around and have a winning season.

2 Comments leave one →
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    April 26, 2013 8:46 pm

    You can only reblog wordpress blogs if you have a wordpress blog. Athol’s pretty awesome, good stuff!

  2. April 27, 2013 12:15 pm

    Athol is, hands down, my favorite male relationship blogger.

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